Psychologists say that there are three simple ways to become happy. And this is not financial well-being.
Professor Mark Travers, for example, in a publication for Psychology Todaycalls forgiveness and communication the secrets of happiness, writes the publication BB.LV. Three main postulates of his research:
- New scientific research will help implement strategies to fix a bad day.
- Letting go of perfectionist ideals eases the mental burden and allows you to appreciate the pleasure of “doing something” without pressure.
- Practicing forgiveness, even to yourself, is effective in helping you fix a bad day. It reduces anxiety, improves mental health and self-esteem.
The professor notes that regardless of the period being experienced at the moment – rise or fall – a person can become the creator of his moral well-being. Referring to a study published in Journal of Research in Personalitythe scientist calls the rejection of the desire to be perfect, forgiveness and communication the main secrets of happiness.
He draws attention to the fact that the constant pursuit of a high goal leads to frequent emotional, professional and physical burnout. Inevitably, an obsessive thought arises that a person who has not achieved a result is not worthy of something good. The psychologist insists on the rejection of all kinds of perfectionism – to yourself and others, and from the idea that others also demand perfection from you.
To feel happy, says Mark Travers, sociability will help. Communication is useful even for people with social anxiety and introverts. But peace and silence, like loneliness, are good only in small doses.
And the third point on the thorny path to happiness is forgiveness. Feelings of guilt and the memory of the bad deeds of others in relation to a person pull tangible psychological problems. People who think about revenge, as research shows, consider themselves less humane, refined and smart than those who know how to forgive.
Mark Travers argues that the ability to turn a bad day into a good one is by no means a superpower, but a daily practice.